性爱自修室 第三季

Sex Education has outdone itself once again. Season 3 still managed to bring bold, progressive, hilarious, quizzical, whimsical, dynamic, educational concepts, group of characters and stories back to us.

Spoiler alert!!!

Maeve- the brave

Maeve is one of my favourite characters in Sex Ed. She is a brave, defiant prodigy. She always knows what she wants, sometimes in doubt (mostly because of her shitty family- the irresponsible junkie mother and the reckless, unconstrained brother), she just needs a little push to step up and do the right thing. She cares about the meaning of life, the meaning of being right and wrong, and the meaning of working hard towards a goal. Her socio-economic background might hold her back but she has a lot to offer to the community. Being independent, business savvy and tough to her cohort is just one side of her, she is actually really gentle and aimiable to the people she loves- Aimee, Otis and her family. Don't be too harsh on her, Maeve is only seventeen. Think about all of the bad decisions you made when you were a teenager, besides her socio-economic background totally pulls her back.

I love how she encouraged Aimee and accompanied her to go to the police right away after being sexually harassed on the bus, she was being supportive all the way to the end. When Aimee was in denial, she cleared her doubts and explained the entity of the assault. Aimee shouldn't ignore it, she should face it and manage to resolve it. Maeve was being a really good friend.

When Dex panicked about his insecurities, Maeve explained how pleasure should be balanced on both sides, statistics doesn't matter, what matters is whether both of you are enjoying it to the similar extent. Kyle was right, they really excelled at giving advice.

Another thing I love about Maeve is how well-read she is. She loves reading about philosophy and feminism and thinking critically. She is able to use her talent and strength to achieve what she wants. Books definitely helped her to ponder and grow, even though she doesn't have an intact, healthy family to nurture her, she can manage to find a job and provide herself actual and mental sustenance. Although being bullied, she knows how to tell from right to wrong, helping Ruby to find the bully is more important than figitating on what happened in the past (when she was bullied). She knows the meaning of moving on. This is probably one of the reasons she choose to move in with Anna: " you can never be lonely with the company of a good book." And possibly a cup of really good tea.

When it comes to Otis, Maeve becomes insecure, shy and hesitant. Maybe it is because Otis is her first crush. Crush is always special and unique. Unlike other guys around her, Otis is not sophisticated or insensitive, he is generally decent, sweet, polite and slightly mentally mature. He would ask whether it is okay to make a move or do the appropriate things. Maeve probably thinks he is the sunshine in her 'miserable', insecure life. What she doesn't know is Otis thinks exactly same. Otis will always be there for Maeve, he runs to see her everytime. He waited for Maeve patiently when Maeve went to the abortion clinic and thought it was an actual date (Maeve invited him because she felt safe when she was with Otis). Otis was so attentive to Maeve after she came out from the clinic. If it weren't for Isaac's dirty move (deleting a private voice message on other people's phone is a vile decision), they are probably together by now. They missed each other because of it, when they finally kissed at the petrol station, everything was different- there were Ruby and Isaac in between them. They have been in different places for a while. And this time, they will literally be in different place- Maeve has decided to go to the States to follow her dream.

Otis Milburn

Ruby: "You are good at sex, Otis. But that doesn't mean I want to be seen in public with you."

Otis: "Well, I don't want to be seen in public with someone who is mean and uses people for their good sex skills! I have more self-repect than that. We are done!"

Lots of people were blaming Otis for not saying "I love you" back to Ruby, this part of audience empathized Ruby's feeling of getting hurt, but I would applause Otis for not saying "I love you" just because he could. Their relationships started with casual sex, Ruby was sad about her father being ill and disabled. She needs comfort and a means of venting out. A cute guy who is quiet, adequate, and most importantly, he has a sense of respecting female, was just right for her. He would cause no fuss for her. Otis is a decent, sensitive guy who knows about sex, gender and who would treat people respectfully and equally. He was taught well by his well-educated, well-read, sensible mother. He would ask whether it is okay to go further, which shows respect and care of his partner. The relationship between Otis and Ruby was like two people dancing tango- when Otis was trying to get to know Ruby, Ruby chose to shut herself and her family from him. When she finally realised that she was falling in love with him, Otis wasn't ready. The reason why he wasn't ready was because there was never a closure from his feelings for Maeve, in other words, he always likes Maeve, he said he loves Maeve in the voice message. This love didn't fade, it was only buried when he didn't receive any response from Maeve. He was frustrated, he was angry again with Maeve. Yet neither of them knew the message was deleted by Isaac, neither of them was at fault. Thus he knew that he can't say "I love you" back to Ruby when he still has feelings for Maeve, it would not be right. It is not fair for Ruby, it is not fair for himself, and it is not fair for his love to Maeve.

Hope Haddon

Good morning, Moordale! I am your head teacher, Mrs. Haddon, but you can call me Hope. The first thing you need to know about me is that I used to be sitting where you are now. Literally. I went to Moordale too. I've achieved a lot since then. Two degrees, teaching positions at some of the country's top institutions, and by 28, I became the youngest head teacher in the UK. But the years I spent in this building were the best of my life. This school not only encouraged me to excel academically, but it truly allowed me to find my purpose, which is why it has been so hurtful to read some of the horrible things written about Moordale in the press. I don't know what went wrong or how we ended up here, but I do know, it changes today. I can promise you today, if you work hard and you take pride in your school, I will get Moordale and your futures back on track.

I believe when everyone heard Hope's speech at the asembly, they would assume that she was here to bring hope to Moordale (it's corny, but people need it). Eric thinks the head teacher is cool ("teachers are not cool, but she is!"), Ruby loves her bold lipstick colour, everyone adores her by the way she talks. The speech is absolutely a crowd pleaser. And when she asked to meet Maeve and Otis, she complimented their idea of the sex clinic as "entrepreneurial and shows business savvy", she cares about students' career aspirations and passions, this was something the previous headmasters didn't mention or care. Students love cool, considerate and thoughful adults who would put their well-beings (physically and mentally) in the first place. This was why Vivienne was so keen to become Hope's eyes and ears wherever she goes because she worships Hope and sees her as a successful career woman (also she was determined to get into a good university).

Now technically, Hope didn't do anything wrong. She just did what management would usually choose to do for the sake of the whole picture, which was to get sponsorship and funding for the school, particularly for the students and teachers who desparately needed it. She has to be meticulous about her decisions and be deferential to the Board. The Board chose her to make changes and she needs the Board to back her up. Bureaucracy always exists in a top-down system, Hope just did what she was asked to do, she was being realistic. However, adolescents wanted their individualities to be seen, to be heard, to be unique- idealism and realism don't see eye to eye. After Hope has shown her intention to maintain good PR for the school from the press explicitly, she started to be oppressive, she became harsh on the students' individualities- non-binary sex intolerance, LGBTIQ unfriendly, alien hypersensitivity, draconian on-campus disciplines, naming and shaming the rebels. The antagonism between students and Hope climaxed when she negated Vivienne's thoughts and shamed her peers. Vivienne can't endure her actions anymore. They demolished Hope's idea and system.

Jean Milburn & Aimee

I can't help but sharing Jean and Aimee's conversation, it's very encouraging and heartwarming. Their interactions are just so fun to watch. Jean is such a professioanl sex psychologist. I just appreciate the way that she guides aimee and assists her to navigate through the pond of confusion, self-doubt and complication.

Thank you for reading my article to the very end. I might add more when I watch it again.

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Angel

21/09/24

这一季男女主的线我已经不太纠结了 但看到最后maeve去美国 otis又被left behind 真的很为他俩感到惋惜，特别是Otis刚经历了各种内心纠结。但是meave做了个理智的决定吧…

Ruby和otis的线虽然很带感，但是我一直都觉得Ruby不是otis的“the one”。就感觉…两个齿轮没有对起来。关于“i love u”的讨论真的是美剧英剧里的经典问题了😂怜爱Ruby…

Isiic（轮椅男…是这么拼嘛）没有很讨厌他但是从头到尾就没get到过他的内心世界。

更怜爱Adam！！！最后一集看到他参加狗狗比赛，没有拿奖那儿我一直在哭，特别是觉得他爸爸会失望那儿，有点感同身受了。我当时还在期待，Adam一定会拿奖的吧！没想到，这部剧就是这么真实…首秀当然是拿奖希望渺茫。还好有她妈妈和老师在为他鼓掌。Adam不善言辞，但是我感觉他一直在自己的内心世界里挣扎，在自己糟心的生活里挣扎，在找寻希望和方向。Michael也给我同样的感觉。这父子俩还真是像…他们俩最后都找到了让内心平静或喜悦的事，我真的好开心。

Eric真的是特别好的朋友，我很喜欢他和otis在学校走廊里勾肩搭背的感觉。但是他在Nigeria亲了别人，并且不后悔并决定和Adam分手…我其实不太理解。还有，Eric的家庭环境是真的好，他妈妈太可爱了。

剧中还涉及很多自我认同的情节，比如Lily，Cal，另一个BN（我忘了叫什么名字了）…他们和Hope的反抗以及学生高喊的“sex school”让我思考…毕竟从小到大我身边的环境和剧中相比真的是 非常“拘束”。It makes me confused，and think about our own sex education、discrimination、respect…

校长Hope这个角色其实，我个人不是很讨厌。因为我身边不都是这样的大人嘛…只不过没那么过分（挂牌子在身上真的太过分了）。她告诉maeve会给她想办法凑钱那里我真的以为她也是为学生考虑的，但是，可能并没有吧。Hope最后在医院里和otis的谈话又让我心软了…高中生物老师告诉过我们做试管婴儿对于母亲生理上是多么痛苦…每天起床就面对失望与绝望的人，也是勇敢的人吧。

让我动容的还有最后的一个小情节，Jacob对Ola说，you always makes me feel joy。我又飙泪了（好容易哭哦…）

还有！maeve和ameis互相做对方的妈妈的那块，太温暖了，女孩子之间的感情真的好美好。

这一季人物群像做的挺好的，就是感觉反而男女主刻画的没有那么细腻，小人物的支线都比较精彩。

还有，虽然看了三季，我还是要感慨…国内外的性教育环境真的太不一样了（如果剧里演的是真的的话）。实话实说我从小到大还是在被灌输“女生要保持贞操”的观念😂。以至于现在我虽然对婚前性行为没有意见，但是我可能自己不会去突破…不过说这些为时过早，毕竟还是个母胎solo（doge）。

But in my opinion, if some Chinese man can not be that obsessed with virginity, things will be much easier. Feminism still have a long way to go.

摘自个人公众号，公众号ID:水星素描

（其实大部分是从我的公众号搬过来的，第一次在豆瓣发这么长的剧评呀。公众号里面还有很多以前发过的好看的剧的推荐文章和新奇的想法，包括一些日常哈哈哈，欢迎大家关注哟～）

——我来推荐这部答辩超高评分的网飞出品英剧了。 我是去年暑假看的前两季，今天一口气看完了第三季。刚开始还有点懵，但是看第一集的时候很快就回忆起来了每个人身上发生过的故事以及他们的性格特点，所以这剧的人物塑造还是很行的！ 第三季的主题就是那些老套却百看不厌的东西：“追求真爱”“做你自己”“活在当下”。 他们每个人都那么真实，普通，拥有复杂百变的感情…… 可以说我在每个人身上都看到了自己。 但不同的是，不管是因为国情还是他们实在超前了我们太多，看到画面里这群17、18岁的teenagers对于性的开放讨论和勇敢的探索，对爱情和友谊的追求和维持以及和家长老师的对抗等等，都让我既佩服又感动... 虽然说我还没有太多关于这方面的问题，但在去年暑假看完一、二季后我确实认真了解了很多这方面的知识。至少把这个话题当作很正常的事情来看待和讨论，一点都不羞涩，对自己也有更深的了解。 从这部剧里面我学到了很多，我相信这些在我以后的生活中肯定会派得上用场。 总之，我真的推荐，大学生及以上年龄段的人都去看看这部剧，而不是porn，which我确实一部都没看过。 为了防止剧透，就简单谈谈这部剧吧： 作为群体影像剧，它讲述了一个不那么普通的校园里的故事，这个学校的学生似乎对sex有许多问题，校长换了一个又一个。他们的力量似乎还是太渺小，像他们这样的学生不多，而大人们站在不同的角度和身份，对他们的态度也截然不同。 他们和长辈碰撞产生的火花是那么精彩，不管是怕父母知道自己是同性恋还是不愿意和父母沟通，被家庭暴力...最后通过他们的努力，朋友的帮助，彼此的理解——大人和孩子都得到了好转，各自做出改变。 首先是女主Maeve/梅芙： “高智商，低调，善良，缺钱，家庭背景糟糕，还有些拒人之外...” 但庆幸的是她拥有最诚挚的爱，也很认真地爱着。她母亲吸毒，她却拥有最正的三观，自律超常，还把她的妹妹保护的很好。 比起她和男主的感情线，我更喜欢她和她的闺蜜的友情线： 她们的生长环境不同，却在见证彼此最“渣”最过分的一面后还是坚定的拥抱彼此，指出对方的错误，然后一起变得越来越好。 印象最深的是她们和好后，艾米说： “我们当彼此的妈妈吧。” “好的，妈妈。” “谢谢你，妈妈。” 这就是我心中朋友的样子，这也让我想起了我的好朋友。 她们真的就是自己给自己选的家人。 然后是男主Otis/欧提斯: “善于沟通，乐于帮助别人也从中获得成就感，有主见...” 说到他和梅芙的感情线，咋感觉和《normal people》有点像喃。两个人兜兜转转，最后发现对方才是soulmate。期间他们两个人都和其他人交往了，最后也伤了他们的心。 但是他们的伤心都只提了一下，我就在想，只是因为这部剧的主角不是他们。每个人都是自己人生的主角，他们一定也从中学会了些什么，熬过了无尽的痛苦深夜，甚至可能犯同样的错误... 于是，我们把这叫作“青春”。 而在青春里面，谁都被允许犯错。 但是，我觉得现实中这样的情况不多，感觉大家错过了就是错过了，深情被嘲笑，甚至出来了“舔狗”这个我至今都不太理解的词。 那这个被男主辜负的Ruby是什么样的一个女孩呢： “高颜值，标准的校园女王，对待感情却认真而热烈，敢爱敢恨...” 我最欣赏她的是，她在得知男主只是很喜欢她而说不出来“I love you”之后，并没有觉得自己不值得。失恋之后叫上自己的朋友大哭一场，又重新拾起尊严，对于男主的道歉，只是回复到： “I don't hate you,it'll be easier if I hate you.” ...

还有我很喜欢的一对： 他们互相尊重，欣赏，了解...哪怕最后还是因为queer，她必须停下来，也是带着敬意而停止。

他们都是同性恋，本来是情敌，一个把另一个的男朋友抢走了，相处后却发现对方其实不是自己想象的那么普通或者讨厌。 感情是流动的，这句话适用于所有人吧。

害。

再分享几个剧中我很喜欢的片段： （都是用心截图和选择的，我看到的时候很有共鸣。可能因为正在经历，或者说，我也只是个teenager啊） 1.

最后的片段

2.

简直就是我想对我初恋说的...

3.

我们真的很幸运了。

4.

好喜欢欧提斯的妈妈！

最后，看完三季，我想说的是： 1.我们真的很幸运，一定要懂得感恩。 2.珍惜不是说说而已，要用行动。 3.青少年还是学习为主，片里演的只是他们的一部分生活。 生活一定不止有学习，但不好好学习，或者说不去学习自己擅长的东西，长点本事，那往后的人生一定不会太好过。 Thanks for reading.

他俩真的好配好配好配，Ruby一次次为他破例：otis衣服想穿啥穿啥、第一个带回家的人。Maeve和Otis确实不是一个世界的人，错过了三季了，有些人错过了就是错过了。Maeve这么敏感的人面对别人内心都有些自卑，但她和隔壁的天才励志少年惺惺相惜的感觉就很好啊。编剧真的没必要硬把第一季的CP掰回去。从第一季首播开始追的，真情实感的站过他俩的CP，现在觉得大可不必了，move on吧。

A boy I don’t like told me to write from the heart

I didn’t know what that meant

Beacuse I never knew I had one

I never knew I had a heart

Till you said you kissed a boy I haven’t met

Then I knew I had a heart

Because I thought it might stop

And when I thought my heart might stop beating

I realized it had always been there

But it didn’t know how to feel

Until I thought about losing you

I knew we couldn’t last forever

I was waiting for this day

But I hope we can fix things

And if we can’t

I will always thank you

For showing me I have a heart

是aimee发现了maeve不在车上，连负责数人的老师都没发现。男人都不靠谱，但姐妹会永远记着你。 这季对maeve加成最大的就是她和aimee的友情，两人互相陪伴互相温暖。结尾也是aimee鼓励maeve不要因为和otis交往了不想有变动就放弃前途，勇敢去美国求学 反而otis就有点拖后腿的意思，maeve考虑不去留学也是因为和otis刚交往她就这么离开不太好

女孩子的友情最珍贵！

网飞的这部大尺度神剧，一拍就是三季。

季季好评如潮。

此剧的剧情尺度太大，灰灰就不详细展开。

不知道在哪儿看的同学，可以留言或者私信。

灰灰会一一回复。

那么，今天我们就梳理一下剧中一些有趣的地方。

01 表白的重要性

爱情这个东西啊。

真的没有人能说得明明白白。

靠感觉。

感觉来了，那就勇敢的去表白吧。

不要留下遗憾。

剧中的女主梅芙一直喜欢男主奥蒂斯。

可奥蒂斯一直不敢表白。

奥蒂斯以前有一个情敌，叫杰克逊。

杰克逊是一个游泳健将，学校里的明星人物。

而奥蒂斯只是一个废柴。

按理说杰克逊这么优秀的人，应该是梅芙的首选。

可造化弄人，梅芙鬼使神差的爱上了奥蒂斯。

这羞辱到了杰克逊。

因为在他看来，奥蒂斯这个连表白都不敢的废物，是不配得到梅芙的。

所以在派对上，奥蒂斯问杰克逊：“你为什么恨我？”

杰克逊回答得一针见血：

没错，他恨奥蒂斯在爱情面前的软弱。

奥蒂斯不配得到梅芙。

可奥蒂斯也有自己的的性格弱点。

他很自卑。

他觉着配不上闪闪发光的梅芙。

不过在第二季末尾，他终于鼓起了勇气，给梅芙发短信表白。

可戏剧性的转折来了。

艾赛克──奥蒂斯新的情敌──把短信删了。

为此，很多观众想把轮椅男艾赛克杀了祭天。

因为艾赛克这个人极端自私，只为自己着想。

没跟梅芙走到一起的奥蒂斯，阴错阳差，跟全校最受欢迎的女孩露比谈起了恋爱。

可当露比对他说：“我爱你”。

奥蒂斯才意识到，他爱的是梅芙。

我想这就是这个剧要传递出来的价值观：

不爱一个人，要早点告诉人家。

喜欢一个人，就要勇敢的去表白，而且要趁早！

人生苦短，要努力活在当下。

02 你，到底喜欢什么？

有句话叫，谁的青春不迷茫。

说的是，很多人在青春期，并不知道自己喜欢什么。

其实别说青春期的少男少女，有人活了一辈子，都够呛知道自己喜欢什么。

大部分人都是随波逐流而已。

尤其国内的教育。

对学生来说，唯一的使命就是──

学习！学习！学习！

在学校里，学习不好，那简直就不是人。

这可不可以叫学习霸凌？

反观这个剧中的老师，无时无刻不在询问学生：

“你，对什么感兴趣？”

对于差生亚当，虽然浪子回头想学习，可仍回回不及格。

很明显，亚当不是学习的料。

但在老师的追问下，亚当说自己喜欢狗。

他养了一只小型犬，名叫“夫人”。

一人一犬，亲密无间。

知道了自己的爱好后，亚当就带着“夫人”去参加了小型犬表演比赛。

虽然没拿到什么奖。

却得到了比赛官方的充分肯定。

他和“夫人”成为了今年最出彩的新人！

而亚当的脸上，也终于多了几分自信。

俗话说尺有所长，寸有所短。

每个人都是独特的，都有自己的闪光点。

而找到学生的闪光点，恰恰是教育最不可或缺的一环。

此外亚当的老爸格罗夫。

也因为父亲教育的失败，导致了人生中一连串的不幸。

他是家庭霸凌的受害者。

在他父亲眼里，男孩子不能哭。

这养成了他大男子主义的性格。

古板严苛的他，对妻子和孩子亚当说话都是训斥。

从来不会沟通。

最后妻子要跟他离婚，孩子跟他的关系也不好。

人到中年的格罗夫，依然过不好这一生。

当心理医生跟他沟通的时候，他发现竟没有事能令他感到愉悦。

而当他回首往事，却发现他唯一得到的爱，只来自于他的母亲。

他喜欢看母亲给自己做饭。

在格罗夫最失意的时候，他发现，自己最喜欢的事竟然就是做饭。

只有做饭的时候，他才能感到快乐。

看来做个懂自己的人，永远也不晚。

对于学霸女主梅芙。

凭借出色的成绩，她获得了去美国当交换生的资格。

一边是与奥蒂斯的爱情，一边是自己的前途。

梅芙毫不犹豫。

搁置了爱情，选择了去高等学府进修。

这就很人间真实。

不像有些国产剧的女主，为了爱情，放弃985，选择普通大学。

人这一生，有些机会，只有一次，一定不要错过。

对于相信有外星人的莉莉。

奥蒂斯还是一如既往的会说话。

他说莉莉是一个艺术家。

他鼓励想象力爆棚的她，去创作更多丰富的幻想世界。

大家都是与众不同的，找到自己的兴趣真的很重要。

而我们的大男主奥蒂斯，也终于走上了他妈的老路。

决定成为一名心理治疗师。

他的确很擅长说话，也很擅长与人交流。

这就是他的优势。

他还得到了母亲的肯定。

最后的最后，还是要夸一下这个剧的尺度。

在国产剧中，学生间里的霸凌和Xing骚扰，都是禁区。

这就会造成幸存者偏差。

让大家觉着青春期少男少女的生活都是美好的。

其实不然。

很多学生仍是校园霸凌和Xing骚扰的受害者。

大家只能在网上控诉。

其实，很羡慕国外可以把这些问题拍出来。

因为只有大家都知道这个事，才能正视，才能规避。

公众号：剧情向

两天刷完了第三季，温暖好笑，不落俗套，虽然有的人物情节有点浮皮潦草，但总体观感还不错。一星给教育意义，一星给惹人怜爱的Adam。我很喜欢这一季的海报，把人类类比成植物，绘制成植物图册的样子，让人觉得性虽然看起来复杂、纠缠，但其实只是自然和本能。

Otis生活在一个很开明的家庭，妈妈是心理咨询师，他可能是这剧里懂得最多道理的人。他有很多的道理和建议可以给别人，也都给别人带来了帮助。可他自己，却也无法摆脱混乱的生活。他妈妈Jean，作为心理咨询师，道理和方法当然知道得更多，但面对具体生活，也是焦头烂额。这大概就是明白很多道理，但仍过不好这一生吧。但是那又怎样呢，生活本来就是一团混乱，如果违背自己的内心去维持一个表面的美好生活，那才是真正的可悲吧。

这一季充满了混乱，大人和小孩的混乱程度不分上下，盘点一下主要人物关系。

Otis & Ruby：“渣or不渣，这是一个问题”

始于Ruby觉得更舒适的Casual Relationship，Otis却想要更多，想要让Ruby认可他，想要给这段关系一点意义。可他这样做，并不是出于对Ruby的喜欢，而更像是一种不甘心、一种想要证明自己价值的冲动。所以当Ruby感动于他的诚意，鼓起勇气向他展示了自己的脆弱，赋予这段关系意义，他却发现，自己并无法承受。Otis的渣，源于他对自己的误解。他的好，源于他对彼此的诚实。Ruby这一季好出彩，三人组也很可爱，摆脱了第一季塑料姐妹花的污名。

Adam & Eric：“不同步的恋爱”

Eric想要享受being a gay，而且他也准备好了，可是Adam却没有。这种感觉就好像，你和你女朋友都是高中生，你已经把你女朋友介绍给自己的父母朋友，因为你家里环境宽松，但她却还会在发你们合照的时候屏蔽一大堆人因为她家人不让她早恋。虽然能理解Eric的决定，但关系走向终结的时候我好不忍心，Adam这么可爱的人，怎么可以伤害他呜呜呜，他就是林黛玉Moordale分玉啊，那么善良、笨拙、敏感，还写诗呢，多么感人呜呜呜。

Amy & Jean：“不是你的错”

Amy在哭着倾诉自己在巴士上被性骚扰的经历时，Jean问她是不是会认为如果当时没有对那个男的微笑，她就不会被性骚扰。Amy不置可否。Jean问她，那你以前对陌生人微笑过吗？他们是不是也因为你的微笑而骚扰你呢？

我觉得这个分析方法太实用了，当我遇到了一些不好的对待，而我隐隐觉得可能是我自己的问题的时候，我就应该问自己，我以前这样做的时候，是不是也都遭到这种不好的对待呢？如果不是，then it's not my fault and fuck them。

Maeve & Amy：“家境悬殊的人能不能做朋友”

友好相处的表面之下，因为彼此生长环境的巨大差异使两个人也有一些暗暗的张力，法国那场争吵让她们都说出了中肯却担心会伤害对方而没有说过的话。上了大巴之后，Amy又主动求和。Amy真的是小天使。做彼此的妈妈也太美好了。

Ola & Lily: “政见不同的人能不能谈恋爱”

关于外星人那一段让我想到《致命女人》里的Eli和他的律师女权主义者老婆Taylor，他爱上她老婆是因为觉得她老婆做女权主义演讲的时候太酷了，但结了婚之后发现两个人其实感情基础并不牢靠。你以为你可以接受不同的观念，但其实可能在无意识地鄙视别人。人长到十几二十三十岁，不带点judgement是不可能的。但看来Ola和Lily想要克服这种障碍，祝福她们俩！

Otis & Maeve：“毁灭吧，赶紧的”

这一对我觉得最后也不会成，因为已经过多drama了。你伤害我，我伤害你，你再伤害我，我再伤害你。我跟别人好了但我还爱你，我跟别人分手了你又跟别人好了，我被伤害了所以我又伤害你，你被伤害了然后你走了，我后悔了我又表达我爱你，然后上帝之手让你没听到所以我又被伤害了，然后我又跟别人好了，然后我跟别人分手了，然后你又跟别人在一起了...

就像老友记里的Ross和Rachel一样，虽然第十季里他们俩在一起了，但我觉得如果有第十一季老友记，R&R绝对很快又会分手，赌两块钱的。